My favorite relative other than my children is my cousin. He has always been there for me emotionally. My mom tries but doesn’t seem to understand depression and anxiety.
I’m not sure who my least favorite relative would be. The relative that is the most difficult for me to be around is my father.
My cousin is an incredible person, kind compassionate, empathetic, yet he doesn’t like conflict.
My father has been successful at almost everything he has done done throughout his life. He is an incredible athlete and has physical gifts most people would want to have. He’s worked hard to get where he is in life but also has had a head start.
If he and my cousin argued about me my cousin would hopefully point out as he said to me that just getting out of bed everyday is a triumph.
My fathers retort would be that I’m lazy amongst other things he bring up. I can remember off the top of my head once in my entire life receiving a complement from him.
My father is old school. Hes loving towards children until they are able to become their own people and assertive. He used to mock my depression and anxiety.
My cousin has had an interesting and at times difficult life. He’s learned compassion from what he’s been through and also seems to have it innately. I don’t ever remember seeing him in an argument or losing his temper. He is very composed and thoughtul.
My father has some of these qualities. He’s helped me in my ways. Emotionally is not one of them. My moms dismisses the way he talks to me and others.
My father often looks down on those that are not successful and doesn’t seem to understand those with less. Yet, he used to take us to the poorer parts of the city to see those less forturnate than us. We are all complex in our own way.
My cousin would point out to my father all that I’ve been through. My father would point out all my faults and everything I’ve done wrong over the last few years.
My father tends to be negative and my cousin positive. Arguments between family and specifically about family seem to be common and can often be what drives a couple apart.
If this did or has happened who judges who would win. My father would like get the last word in. He always has to get the last word in and likely would “win” in that sense. If it was truly a debate and moderated or if someone else was there, my cousin would “win”.
In what sense is there really a winner in every argument?