Prompt 113: Write the jacket copy (brief cover description) for your memoir

Prompt 113: Write the jacket copy (brief cover description) for your memoir. I specifically bought 642 Things to Write about Me with a memoir in Mind. The exercises regarding memoirs I have either written already or thought about them extensively.

I specifically bought 642 Things to Write about Me with a memoir in Mind. The exercises regarding memoirs I have either written already or thought about them extensively.

I have written three chapters of a memoir thus far. I have published a synopsis of what my life has been like and partially how I got to where I am now on the website Wattpad. The title of my memoir would be Paralyzed.

That describes the paralysis that my ex-has and what having anxiety does to me. I often feel paralyzed in my thought and actions. Almost frozen and frequently numb.

The summary I wrote for my memoir on Wattpad is:

“My life the last seven (now eight) years have been almost too dramatic to be believed. It began on Father’s day 2009 when we brought our second child and oldest daughter home from the hospital. The following Mother’s day we were back having twins. Fifteen months later my wife became a quadriplegic. She filed for divorce 11 months after that. In May 2015 she gained custody of our four children.

Things were not always easy in our marriage. We had two families for the most part that didn’t like each other. We both came from big families. There were people who were very controlling on both sides.

All I ever wanted from her was for our family to matter the most. When we would fight she would almost always say my family, your family. I responded all I cared about was our family.

I went to see her at the hospital six to seven days per week at the hospital for months. I thought by doing that and being there for her I could show her how much I really loved her.

It never seemed to matter. Her friends and family of origin seemed to matter more. She often crushed my dreams on a daily basis.

More of the jacket copy will someday potentially include how controlling her sister was. Certain things that were said to me by my ex, her family, and my family.

There are many complicated layers to the story. A publishing company may or may not want to include that. It’s a story that needs to be told. Divorce is a devastating thing that tears families apart.

Sadly the family we created was being torn apart long before the divorce.

Prompt 103: Describe what you sound like when you’re angry. Take the perspective of someone in earshot behind a closed door, listening .

Prompt 103: Describe what you sound like when you’re angry. Take the perspective of someone in earshot behind a closed door, listening .

What I sound like when I am angry would be a very subjective answer. I have evolved in my ability to control my anger.

Like anyone that has been through a divorce many things about my personality were exaggerated. One of those things was my temper and impulsivity. The hell my divorce put me through mellowed me out in many ways.

The biggest thing I do when I get angry or passionate about anything, in general, is to raise my voice. With ADHD I often get so passionate and wrapped up in making my point I subconsciously tune out what the other person is saying.

What also would have come through in the past was my intention and need to be right. I focused very intently on the principle of everything. Standing on principal is what was important to me. I didn’t look enough at what the person I was arguing with was thinking.

Whoever was in theory behind the closed-door within earshot listening to the argument should have been able to discern that from the argument. I would speak about what was the cool thing, the right thing or what I perceived that I or whoever was on my side of the argument to be treated fairly as the important thing.

I have had to learn the hard way that it is much better to be able to discuss things civilly more than arguing. So many friends and colleagues of mine have had to deal with awful divorces that many of us are numb to arguing.

What should come out of someone who would listen to my arguments that while I might have been angry it is because I am passionate and feels things deeply. I want those close to me to do things the right way. I used to care far too much about what others think.

We all need to do a better job of understanding each other. This has spilled over to the way that arguments are conducted on social media. If we learn how to better debate and not argue, a lot more would get accomplished in the world.

Prompt 86: What are you in the middle of?

This is the most random and maybe the most interesting question. Everyone that is working on the book 642 Things About Me at a minimum would be in the middle of answering the question what are they in the middle of.

The biggest things I have been in the middle of all day is writing. I posted three blog posts and finished a fourth that will be posted tomorrow on the blog I get paid to run. I also posted another blog post on the sister site to this that is partially based on prompts.

The specific post I wrote earlier is based on the prompt project #blogexodus. It is a two-week prompt project that precedes Passover. The creator of the project Rabbi Phyllis Sommer also runs another blog project called #blogelul that precedes the Jewish High Holidays of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur.

In the past, people we not in the middle of something as much as they are now. It seems as if we are always in the middle of something. How often to do just take time to stop, relax and think.

We are always in the middle of something in this era. Even during our down times, most people are on their phones. We have a constant need to be in touch with everyone at all times.

Texting, checking email, looking at social media or taking a selfie to post to social media. We are always in the middle of something. Would society be better off if when someone says where are you in the middle of and we can truly answer nothing and mean it?