Prompt 99: What you know of your family’s history all told, is it a gift to you or a curse? Defend your arguments.

Prompt 99: What you know of your family’s history all told, is it a gift to you or a curse? Defend your arguments.


Beyond my Grandparents, I do not know much about my family’s history. Living in my father’s shadow has been a gift and a curse.

My father has been successful throughout his life. He is a highly accomplished athlete and was very successful for over 30 years in finance.

My mother always said that he did everything he could to shield us from competition. It was still difficult growing wanting to be as successful as he was. I wanted to reach the things he did or at least the goals I had set for myself.

My parents have been married for 52 years. I have dreamt almost my entire life of getting married and raising a family with a woman I could be close with. Someone to share ideals, ethics, a mutual physical and emotional relationship.,

I knew from a young age what I wanted to do for a career. My career never materialized. My father wanted me to go into finance like he did. One of my brothers did and is doing very well. I tried but it felt like I did have the right mind for it.

Although my father did what he could to steer us away from certain things, he is also very judgemental. He has certain ideas about how people should live life. He often does not understand people who are not like him.

He is extroverted, assertive and athletic. Anyone that is more introverted, not as athletic and that might struggle with physical or mental impairments he doesn’t seem to relate to.

I was diagnosed with dyslexia at a fairly young age. I learned I had ADHD soon after finishing college and anxiety and depression much later. My father would call me sweetness growing up in a sarcastic nod to my fluctuating moods. My mother would call me a martyr or tell me I was saying woe as me. In actuality, it was me dealing with my depression and anxiety.

Almost everything in life internally has been difficult for me. I have struggled with the issues mentioned above. Those have hindered me in almost every way. I have struggled with work and relationships.

I have held three or four jobs for two years or more since being finished with college. Others ones have often not worked out. Dating is a frequent struggled. My marriage was a constant battle.

Dating is a frequent struggle. My marriage was a constant battle. We dated for two years before getting married. We were married nine and a half years when she filed for divorce. The longest relationship I was in other than with her was two and half months.

Since she filed for separation nearly five years ago the most I have been out with one woman was four times in a three-month span.

My entire family beyond my father and siblings are high achievers. It feels like I have to expend a lot of energy just to get through a day. My sister told me that everyone goes through depression and I just have to get through it.

On the whole, because of my family’s lack of understanding me and their level of achievement versus my lack of it, my family’s history and success are more of a curse than a gift.



Prompt 82: A moment when you wanted to be older than you were?

The old adage is that we all want to be older when we are growing up and younger once we get there.

The old adage is that we all want to be older when we are growing up and younger once we get there.

For most of my life, it wasn’t that I wanted to be older, it was wanting to get to a place in my life that I had dreamt of since I was 12. From the moment my parents brought my sister home from the hospital I knew I wanted to be a parent.

I am the oldest of four. I have a brother 2.5 years younger and my sister is nearly 12 years younger. I also have another brother who is nearly 17 years younger than I am.

Meeting a woman to spend my life with and having kids and raising them together is something I dreamt about over 20 years. I had to short relationships until I met the mother of my children when I was 33.

We dated for two years before marrying. I was able to slow down the process of having children. She wanted to start right away, I wanted to settle into our marriage. We had our first son nearly 2.5 years into our marriage and almost five years exactly after our first date.

She really wanted to start on number two about a year after our first. Our second child nearly was born nearly 3.5 years after our first. We then had the shock of our lives when we got pregnant less than three months after our second was born.

In retrospect I was I could freeze those years. We never really got to be a family. We had many obstacles. Through it all, I have learned to enjoy the time we are in as much as possible and not rush to the next stage of life. It’s made me focus on what is happening now. That can and has been both a curse and a blessing.